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If you have not heard of the term MENSTRUAL CUP before then you may have heard of by one of it’s other names:

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Cervix Positions

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There are numerous types of stems used on menstrual cups including:

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Size 1 (small)For pre-childbirth and under the age of 30.

Size 2 (large)

If you have birthed a child or are over the age of 30.

Model 1For light to normal flow.

Model 2

For normal to heavy flow

Size AFor women who have given birth

Size B

For women who have not given birth

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Do not use the following cleaners on your menstrual cup

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Menstrual cup

1 –; 2 hours

2 –; 4 hours

3 – 6 hours

6 –; 8 hours

5 – 6 hours

10 –; 12 hours

Jess Miller is a loving mother that wants to help other parents by giving them helpful parenting tips and reviewing the best products for their children to save them time, money, and hassle.

Amanda says

April 19, 2015 at 4:56 pm

For the sizing information, if a girl is under 30 and hasn’;t had babies, does her overall size matter? If a woman is larger/obese, has wide hips already, and has to use larger sized EVERYTHING, would she still use a small size cup? Or is that something she would have to trial and error? Also, if a woman is petite, has had 4 kids, and uses small EVERYTHING, would she still use the larger cup size? Basically, does a woman’;s general size matter at all?Thanks!Amanda

Jess Miller says

April 19, 2015 at 11:33 pm

Hi Amanda,

As I touched on in the article, menstrual cup sizing should only be used as general guidelines if you have no idea where to start. Ultimately you know your body better than anyone else. If you already use larger or smaller products then I would stick with similar sizing.

For the record I’;m over 30 and have kids and went with a larger cup only to find it was a fraction to big. If I wasn’;t to follow those guidelines I would have definitely choose a smaller size and guessed correctly first go.

Keep being awesome!

Jamie says

February 1, 2016 at 4:50 am

Nope I’;m a big girl thought the same thing it was way to big and uncomfortable and I have a child! Prebirth size fits well!

Nora says

June 17, 2015 at 8:53 pm

Hi! Just a quick question-I have been using the fleur cup for a few years now and I have always boiled it for a few minutes at the end of my period.

I am currently traveling and don’;t have access to a stove. Is it possible to sterilize it using a diluted vinegar solution? If so, how many parts water to vinegar, and for how long? Would you recommend soaking it or simply rinsing it to sterilize it in this way?

Thank you so much!

Jess Miller says

June 18, 2015 at 10:15 am

Hi Nora,

1 part vinegar to 9 parts water solution should be sufficient. I would swirl the solution around, rubbing at areas of concern for a minute or two.

Alternately denture tablets absolutely rock at sanitizing menstrual cups.

Keep being awesome!

Saba says

June 25, 2015 at 2:48 pm


Thank you SO much for this. I wish I had seen this before I went and bought me a cup. It’;s the first time I’;ve used a menstural cup (If only I had gotten my hands on this in my 20s!) I don’;t know if it’;s the right one for me. But I think the cup may be too big. It’;s a bit of a problem putting it in and taking it out. I’;m using ‘;Shecup’; in India.My problem is that I made the mistake of using anti bacterial soap 3-4 times on my cup but saw that so far nothing has happened. I was naive enough (more like didn’;t bother doing enough research) –; How would I know if something HAS happened to the cup? I did feel a bit of a tingling down there after washing the cup with that harsh soap and reinserting but haven’;t used any soap after that. Am on the second day now. Back to my question, how can you tell if your cup is ‘;damaged’;?Thanks a bunch!

Jess Miller says

June 25, 2015 at 10:47 pm

Hi Saba,

Thanks for your question. Welcome to the wonderful menstrual cup club!

Menstrual cup damage is generally pretty obvious and can identified using your eyes and hands.

Look closely for irregularities in the silicone surface (like small holes and dents) that were not there before. Also run your fingers around the cup. You may notice smooth areas that have turned rough. These areas can trap bacteria if you are not super careful with your cleaning.

If everything seems normal then it looks like you are in the clear. Also, If you suspect that the cup is a little big then you won’;t know yourself when you try a smaller one that fits properly. I went to the Lunette after tying the Divacup and would never look back.

At the end of the day if you are happy with the cup and it doesn’;t leak then keep rocking it!

Keep being awesome!

Elizabeth Moore says

June 29, 2015 at 10:06 pm

Hi,I have a super high cervix where I can’;t even touch it with my longest finger. I recently purchased the lunette cup, which has a quite long stem. I was wondering if it will be uncomfortable because I cannot cut any of it off or I won’;t be able to remove the cup?

Also, should the cup touch the cervix when inserted?


Jane says

July 2, 2015 at 12:08 am

Another really useful link you could add to your Resources section is the menstrual cup map that shows all the stores in the world that stock menstrual cups, because lots of people don’;t like buying online.

Jess Miller says

July 2, 2015 at 1:05 am

Hi Jane,

Awesome resource.

I have added it to the guide, thanks for pointing it out.

Keep being awesome!

Summer says

July 20, 2015 at 7:08 pm

Is Dr. Bronner’;s Pure Castile Unscented Baby Mild Soap mild enough to wash my Diva Cup??

Jess Miller says

July 20, 2015 at 10:16 pm

Hi Summer,

I have personally used Dr. Bronner’;s in the past and have not had an issue. Just be sure to not go overboard with the amount used and rinse your menstrual cup very thoroughly. Soap loves to hide in the small suction holes in the rim so stretch these out while you are rinsing.

Keep being awesome!

Amanda says

September 12, 2015 at 4:26 am

I can’;t speak from my own experience, but from the Diva Cup’;s instructions in the box and on their website:

“;When cleaning your DivaCup be sure to avoid using: vinegar, tea tree oil, scented/fragranced soap, castile/peppermint soap or any other oil based soap…;”;

Jess Miller says

September 12, 2015 at 6:01 am

Hi Amanda,

From personal experience I believe DivaCup uses these warnings just to protect themselves. While I cannot comment on the other cleaning agents, very diluted vinegar and castile soap do little to the silicone and rinsing thoroughly (remember, a cup does go inside you) has caused no damage to my ex-DivaCup and my current Lunette. I definitely wouldn’;t use any of these undiluted mind you.

Remember –; It is in DivaCups interest for you to continue to buy their DivaWash (menstrual cup cleaner). A menstrual cup is basically a one time purchase while their cleaner will see repeat buys from customers and is a good business model.

Keep being awesome.

Sandra says

July 24, 2015 at 2:00 am

Thanks for the article Jess. As a “;minimalist”;, I consider the mestrual cup and the e-reader the best inventions EVER. I’;ve been using mine for about four months now and I have read many articles about it since I do have an issue which I haven’;t seen addressed yet. I feel like my anatomy is a little different. My cervix is average BUT my cup never opens fully. It’;s as if you put the cup in the middle of a very heavy book. I’;ve tried different kinds of folds and I can feel that it’;s not folded. It’;s just squooshed by the interior walls of my vagina and I have bought the smaller size. The consequence of it never opening fully –; I think –; is that it fills up more quickly and that I always need to use a pantyliner as I experience minor leakage. Any thoughts anyone? Even so, I’;m 100% behind you on converting the world to menstrual cups :) Thank you.

Jess Miller says

July 24, 2015 at 3:19 am

Hi Sandra,

I completely agree, I am a sucker for my Kindle when I can find 5 minutes to sit down. One of my hobbies includes buying ebooks that I will never have time to read. Maybe when the kids are older.

Regarding your issue, have you tried a smaller cup? I originally used the Diva cup and it was a little awkward to use (I honestly didn’;t see what the fuss was about and thought menstrual cups were a passing fad after trying it) While I could get it to open fully, it was sometimes a mission. When I swapped over to the Lunette (which is a little smaller) I found it opened without any drama whatsoever and loved it so much that it prompted me to write up this entire guide.

The problem is, all Vaginas are unique. Based on my experience I could only suggest finding out what size the brand of cup you wear is and trying a smaller one? Remember that the size across the cup does vary a lot from brand to brand. The smaller size of one brand can be bigger than the larger size of another.

Keep being awesome!

Has anyone else had a similar experience to Sandra? Would love to hear how you solved this problem.

Sandra says

July 24, 2015 at 11:27 pm

Thank you for your feedback Jess. I will take your advice on trying a different maker and seeing if perhaps a smaller model might actually open. Like I said, even this “;problem”; hasn’;t kept me from absolutely loving menstrual cups as something that significantly improved my life during menstruation.

I’;m glad you like your e-reader too and since the books won’;t expire, they can wait to be read after your kids grow up :)

Jess Miller says

July 25, 2015 at 5:56 am

I hope it’;s as simple a fix as trying a different menstrual cup. I would love to hear that you had the same success as me.

Keep Being awesome!

Lisa says

June 20, 2016 at 1:19 pm

Hi I know this is a year old thread but I found this after searching because I am having the same issue. Only on day 3 of using –; I bought Me Luna Sport in L &; XL because I’;m over 30, 2 bubs, 2 Csections, but v intact pelvic floor and they are great but they are coming out looking like an oblong shape instead of a circle after a few hours of use (so they’;ve obviously been a bit squashed the whole time). I reckon it’;s from strong kegels. The research I did led me to buy the Sport version because they are firmer &; are able to open more fully against harder muscles ;) I haven’;t tried a softer cup but I would be hesitant as I’;m worried it would just never open. Is this right? I try to insert it the opposite way alternating so that it gets squashed back into a circle every second time ;) any other suggestions?

Sarah W says

January 17, 2016 at 2:39 am

I have this problem with my Keeper sometimes. For me it sometimes takes some adjustments. I find that sometimes after insertion it won’;t open correctly so I will either pull it down or push it up a little further (I feel like sometimes it’;s not in the correct spot). Also for a better “;seal”; I will insert, get it seated then do a half twist so that it is “;sealed”; against the vaginal wall. I make sure I always have some moisture before doing this or it will hurt (like something sticking to your skin), even if it’;s just some tap water before I insert. Sometimes I have to remove it and reinsert when I can’;t get it right.

trish says

July 25, 2015 at 2:53 pm

I’;m new to menstrual cups and was totally loving the idea of it, but I’;m either not inserting correctly or who knows! One day i get it in and can’;t feel it at all but then get major leakage or I get it in and it’;s majorly uncomfortable can totally tell I’;m wearing it and get no leakage. What am I doing wrong? Any help or hints would be great. This is my second cycle using it and I’;m close to giving up but really don’;t want to

Jess Miller says

July 26, 2015 at 1:01 am

Hi Trish,

I could only speculate but it is possible that you are wearing the wrong sized menstrual cup for your body. I previously used the Diva cup which was a little too big for me. When I swapped over to the Lunette menstrual (a smaller sized cup) cup I began to realize just how great this invention is.

When it feels like you are not wearing it it sounds like the cup has not opened properly. As I mentioned in the guide:

If you touch the base of the cup it should feel round. Rotating the cup 360 degrees in either direction will ensure that the cup is fully open and positioned towards the tailbone. Alternatively you can swirl your finger around the outside of the cup to ensure you have a good seal.

If the cup is open and majorly uncomfortable then I could only speculate that the menstrual cup is too big for you. You could try a smaller size. remember; the smallest size of some cups can be bigger than the largest cups of other brands. Check the measurements of your current cup and compare them to a smaller sized cup.

Keep being awesome!

Has anyone else had a similar experience to Trish? Would love to hear how you solved this problem.

Brooke says

November 8, 2015 at 8:23 pm

I’;ve had the same exact problem ever since i started using menstrual cups. either no leaks but uncomfortable/painful or comfortable but leaks. I have stumbled across the rare unicorn of fitting perfectly without leaking once or twice now though so i at least found the target to aim for.I’;ve tried a few different brands and so far lunette is the most comfortable for me. all i can suggest is to play around with the angle and depth when you’;re inserting. Whenever it’;s painful i’;ve usually tried to put it in too deeply and when it leaks i’;ve usually got it positioned at the wrong angle and it’;s not situated under my cervix like it should be.

Arti says

August 3, 2015 at 8:02 am

I haven’;t had intercourse yet, would I find this too difficult to insert? (I even found tampons hard to insert, so stopped trying)

Jess Miller says

August 3, 2015 at 11:31 pm

Hi Arti,

While I personally know of virgins (or so they claim, teenagers can be tricky with what they tell us adults) who do use menstrual cups, they all did so after using tampons. A folded menstrual cup is slightly bigger than a tampon. I can only speculate, but I believe that you will have trouble with a menstrual cup if you are having difficulty using tampons.

While I highly recommend menstrual cups, there are numerous instances where they are just not suitable and unfortunately yours may just be one such instance. Do not despair thoughyellow throw pillows, just because you cannot use one now does not mean you will be unable to in the future.

Keep being awesome!

Ess07 says

December 13, 2015 at 9:53 am

I have never been sexually active either, and I tried tampons (mini size with applicators) before purchasing a menstrual cup. I tried the Meluna cup after using tampons for 3 cycles (only 2 cycles in with the cup and I’;m still figuring out the best fold). You can try water-based lubricants for easier insertion, but they’;re not needed if you truly RELAX while doing it. As Jess reminded us in the guide, the head of a baby is supposed to fit in there, so a mini-tampon or a folded cup is nothing! Yes, more likely than not, the first trials will be uncomfortable, but I’;d say better that now than utter pain during the “;first time.”; It took me the whole year to move away from the hated sanitary pads, but I’;m ridiculously proud of myself for that achievement. One advantage of the cup Jess didn’;t mention is: no noisy package!I found it empowering to learn about my genitalia before my first sexual intercourse, and my periods have become less intimidating and annoying (i get the full pms package, so changing pads is the last thing I want to worry about for 5 days straight).Good luck to you, Arti! You can do it. Even if you choose to stick with pads, learning more about your body will still be a bonus.

Katie says

August 6, 2015 at 4:34 am

It is my first cycle using my cup. I have had 5 babies, and I don’;t k ow if that matters or not. I feel like every time I insert my cup it is different. I was leaking a ton and when I went to remove it, it had turned completely sideways! What!? Then there were 2 or 3 times when there was a good deal and more actually got in the cup than leaked out. Then later that day, no matter how far I try to put it in (still using the same technique as the times that worked) it kept coming down, almost portuding out. I want this to work, but am really having a hard time!! Advice would be fantastic!

Jess Miller says

August 6, 2015 at 4:48 am

Hi Katie,

Congratulations on pushing out 5 bundles of joy! That is awesome! If you have given birth to this many babies then it is highly likely you should be using the larger size of menstrual cups. I just want to confirm that this is the case. As it sounds like your issue is either your inserting technique or your cup is not the right size for your body. A cup that is too small for you can shift inside you which may be what happened here.

Unfortunately, without physically watching you (something I don’;t think either of us would be comfortable with:P) it is difficult to determine whether you are using the correct inserting technique. All I can really suggest is to either give the base a slow spin or run your finger around the outside to ensure that the cup has opened and sealed.

Keep being awesome!

Has anyone else had the same problem as Katie? I would love to hear how you solved this.

Amber says

August 17, 2015 at 3:13 am

Yes…;im on my first cycle trying this out. Im not having leak issues but i can tell it is in there (slight discomfort). I took a long shower tonight trying different folds and positions. Lying down with c or u fold and position worked best and it was like my vagina sucked in easily into the right spot the diva cup and then i felt the pop. I have consistently been removing it sitting over toilet with no mishaps or problems.

Jess Miller says

August 17, 2015 at 3:22 am

Hi Amber,

Thanks so much for weighing in, the long shower is a GREAT idea! Sounds like you are doing a lot better than many people given that it is your first cycle (If I could have filmed my first cycle it would have looked like a cheesy horror movie). So well done on finding a technique that works as this is one of the biggest battles that people have with menstrual cups.

Just following on from you feeling the menstrual cup in side you, I noticed you are using the Diva Cup which was also my first cup.

I could also feel that cup inside me although unlike you I had leak issues with it. When I swapped over to the Lunette I could no longer feel the cup in me. Just some food for thought.

Keep being awesome!

Emma says

August 9, 2015 at 10:39 am

Hi I want to switch from tampons to a cup and was looking at the Lilly cup but I am unsure what size to get as I have not had a child however I do have wide hips and an extremely heavy flow so I have always used the extra heavy flow tampons that are the largest one for sale and I have looked at the two different sizes and there doesn’;t seem to be that much of a size difference I just don’;t want to spend £24-£25 if I end up getting the wrong size and not being able to use it

Jess Miller says

August 10, 2015 at 12:57 am

Hi Emma,

You most definitely know your body better than me and I thoroughly recommend you go with your instincts. I understand your reluctance to waste money on a cup you may not use as it can be a big initial investment. If it is any reassurance, even if you buy both sizes of menstrual cup you will still save money compared to the ongoing purchase of tampons in the long run.

It can be really tricky to size right. For instance, I am over 30 and have had a child and found the larger cups too big (I initially went with the larger size before swapping over to a smaller one. That said, many other mothers who have had kids find the larger cup size to be a perfect fit.

All our bodies are different, that’;s why there is no “;one size fits all option”;.

Keep being awesome!

NatesMom says

February 17, 2016 at 7:17 pm

This must be my problem as well. I have the #2 Diva Cup, am 29 with an almost 2-year old but I’;m pretty fit and active. First time using I had zero leakage but this is now the 4th time and it’;s been constant leaking even if I empty the cup more frequently. My cervix seems to sit fairly low and I do have a heavy flow the first few days if that makes a big difference? Guess I’;ll have to shop around and try some other sizes/brands.

Kathy Brown says

January 31, 2017 at 6:50 pm

I also have a low cervix and pretty strong pelvic muscles and I use the MeLuna XL Classic and Sport and they work great for me! Can’;t feel them and no leaks ??

Ryan S says

August 15, 2015 at 3:55 am

So this is my first time using a menstrual cup. I chose the Lily Cup size A. 26, not a virgin, never had kids. I’;ve used regular sized tampons since I was 18. I hated them, so when I discovered cups, I was super excited. But I can’;t make it fit. I’;ve tried every type of fold suggested. I’;ve rotated, pinched, pushed, anything I could think of. I ran my finger along my vaginal wall. No matter how I shift the cup it stays in one position. Flat. The stem is always too long. I leak more than the cup catches. And I have no idea what in doing wrong. Any advice from someone more experienced would be great.

Es says

March 8, 2017 at 8:49 pm

size A is actually for people who have had kids…;maybe you got the size too big? try the other size, model 2, which is meant for women without kids.

Charity says

August 16, 2015 at 11:19 pm

Jess, Thanks for your wonderfully witty and educational article. I was diagnosed with severe endometriosis in my early 20s, had three surgeries and was in hormonally-induced menopause for 20 years. Now at 41, I am off the meds at a last to see if my body can come back so I may have a baby . My flow is small and tampons hurt terribly. The risk of TSS with my health history is scary. Pads just smell and you can feel the release of the blood —; gross! I have been looking for a good article on menstrual cups to help me decide whether to try or not. Your article was just what I needed to make an informed decision on which to try. Thanks for your bravery in discussing such a private subject for our education.

Jess Miller says

August 17, 2015 at 3:06 am

Hi Charity,

Wow, it sounds like you have had quite a rough patch and I’;m really sorry to hear it. It sounds like there is light at the end of the tunnel. I truly hope your body bounces back as I feel every woman deserves to experience the miraculous highs (and lows) that accompany giving birth and raising a child. You have my best wishes here.

In regards to the Menstrual cup they are absolutely amazing if you are looking to avoid TSS. I just have one concern when you say that tampons hurt terribly. Is this because of the size? or rather the drying sensation that goes along with it? I am just curious as Menstrual cups are slightly larger than tampons and if it is the size that is causing you grief then you will run into the same issue with menstrual cups.

If it is the feeling of drying out then you are going to wonder how you went so long without using a menstrual cup. Just remember, it will be messy at first, there more than likely will be spilled blood but once you have the hang of it you will be in a much better place.

Best wishes and keep being awesome!

Pia Scheel says

August 18, 2015 at 6:15 pm

Hi Jess, thanks for the great article! :) I been using my lunette cup (size 1, small) for some time now and I been working on it for long and hard 4-5 cycles until i figured out how to put it in so it wont leak during the day. It works out fine now, though it mostly still leaks a little bit but i dont even care anymore ;)

What makes me angry is that it still ALWAYS leaks when i lay down for more then 30 minutes. Every night. Its really frustrating and i wondered if you know what could be the reason? Is the cup to small?

When i bought my cup in the pharmacy i wanted to take size 2, by intuition, but the woman and my boyfriend both said i should take size 1. I am 23, never had a baby, but I am tall and have wide hips, maybe i need a bigger cup? Or do you have any idea what i could try before buying a new cup? thank you very much! :)

Jess Miller says

August 18, 2015 at 10:58 pm

Hi Pia,

Thanks for the question. It sounds like your boyfriend and pharmacy assistant think they know your vagina better than you! When choosing your menstrual cup I highly recommend going with your instincts, it generally gives you the best chance for a good fit.

Before you rush out and grab size two I would check to see what the problem is while laying down. Since you will be unable to check the seal of the cup while you are laying down I would ask your boyfriend for a big favor here. while you are laying down in a similar position to how you sleep ask him to poke around the edges of the cup to ensure it has a proper seal or to give the stem a spin and slight tug. You are looking for a loose fit which may indicate you should jump up a size. If your boyfriend will do that for you then he definitely is a keeper ;)

Keep being awesome!

Pia says

August 19, 2015 at 10:15 pm

Thank you Jess, he would have done that for sure, but we are not together anymore ;)I think i will buy the bigger one and just try it. If it doesnt work i can live with that and will just use the cup during the day.Thank you for your precious advice, best wishes :)

Jess Miller says

August 19, 2015 at 11:58 pm

Any time, Pia.

Hope it all works out for you as menstrual cups are the best thing ever if you can get them to work for you!

I have my fingers crossed for you that going up a cup size solves all the problems. Good luck!

Hazel says

August 19, 2015 at 4:40 am

I’;ve been using my cup for two months now. I have three problems. One after only two cycles its stained a yellowish brown colour (I boil in between cycles and wash with a soap free wash). Two I occasionally leak which I don’;t know why? Three when I swim the cup sucks up water and I pull out pink water? When I lay down after insertion I can also feel a bit of a pop. Is this normal?

Jess Miller says

August 19, 2015 at 4:49 am

Hi Hazel,

While I wont be able to answer all your questions I can certainly try:

Discoloration is perfectly normal and on it’;s own is not a sign of a damaged menstrual cup. This is particular common when boiling clear menstrual cups, while some brands are more resistant to color change than others, eventually your menstrual cup will begin to show signs of use. This is not really a problem mind you as a menstrual cup is not exactly an object you mount on your mantelpiece to show off to visitors (I hope).

Unfortunately I cannot comment on the menstrual cup sucking up water, I avoid swimming where possible (I don’;t think I have been past my ankles in the last 10 years). It’;s more a phobia than anything. Maybe one day I will get over it and take the plunge, but I am not ready yet. Can anyone else weigh in on this odd happening?

When laying down the menstrual cup can move a little but should still form a seal to capture any blood. Is the pop painful (I have not experienced this) or a more “;oh yeah, I’;m wearing a cup”; kind of sensation? Speaking with other menstrual cup wearers there do seem to be some people that are aware of their menstrual cup as they lay down to sleep as the cup moves slightly.

Keep being awesome!

ElFoxy says

November 24, 2015 at 8:16 am

I have had the issue of the cup popping when I lay down. It seem that the cup is opening fully once I am relaxed in bed. I have an issue with getting the cup to open. And it’;s days that I’;m having trouble that it normally pops

Michelle says

August 27, 2015 at 1:48 am

Hi, thank you for all the information. Today was my first day using the Diva Cup. I inserted and removed it several times for practice, leaving it in longer each time. It never leaked, but the stem seemed to move back each time, the last time I had to search for it and took some time to get out worrying me a bit. It almost seemed sideways but yet didn’;t leak. Should the stem always be pointing out or is it normal for it to settle back depending on your shape. Hope this makes sense.

Jess Miller says

August 27, 2015 at 11:42 pm

Hi Michelle,

Thanks for the question. If I understand you correctly you are saying that that the whole cup is moving deeper and deeper inside of you.

Are you using the correct size? If your menstrual cup is too small it definitely can move around. When you are wearing it and you poke it does it stay in position or does it move further up inside of you? When I wear mine it forms a seal and if I poke it will stay in position. If you can run your finger around the rim of your menstrual cup while wearing it you should be able to confirm this.

Keep being awesome!

Kats says

August 29, 2015 at 4:43 pm

When i first bought a cup it was a Diva cup size 1. In the beginning it worked good! I liked that it felt on the firm side. Now on my 2nd and 3rd month using it I felt it getting a little softer and I started having leaks and felt air escape even when it wasn’;t full, and i made sure I had the correct placement. I kept getting so frustrated and thinking that maybe the cup isn’;t for me.. but after reading around I realized I might actually need a larger size.There are so many cups out there! Don’;t give up guys, it really is trial and error.

Jess Miller says

August 30, 2015 at 11:24 am

Hi Kats,

Thanks for weighing in. Would love to hear if jumping up a size helped solve the problem. Please keep us posted!

Keep being awesome!

Mum of 1 daughter says

August 30, 2015 at 11:21 am

Having had a hysterectomy several years ago, my daughter will start this journey of her grown up life and I’;m a bit at a loss as to what is the best option for her. What age can girls start using menstrual cups. My daughter is a competitive swimmer as well. Would it suit her?

Jess Miller says

August 30, 2015 at 11:40 am

I know of one mother who managed to convince her daughter to use a menstrual cup at the age of 16, even though she wanted to use tampons because that’s what all her friends were using (I miss being young where the biggest problem you faced was just fitting in). After a rocky start she now wears a menstrual cup with ease.

Here are some things she learned from the experience:

* It has a good chance of breaking the hymen, and it will very likely shock your daughter if she is not prepared for it (if she is a virgin).

* It will be super awkward. Chances are your daughter has not yet been properly introduced to her vagina yet. The lack of knowledge can make it difficult to instruct her how to insert it and what are good and bad signs she should be looking out for.

* introduce her to a menstrual cup during the school break. You don’t want your daughter humiliated at school cause she has not properly removed the cup or it has slipped and she gets covered in blood. However, once she has mastered cup use she wont have these issues at all.

* Be patient, this will be a lot harder than simply getting your daughter to wear a pad or tampon but the health benefits will be more than worth it. Stressing out about it in front of your daughter will just confirm in her mind that she should be using tampons or pads.

Having not had to do to teach a young adult myself, I can only pass on these small tidbits of advice.

As for the swimming, the menstrual cup can be worn in the water without difficulty. However, me and others I have talked to have only ever swim for fun and not at a competitive level, but I do not believe it will be a problem. There is a chance she may “feel” or “notice that she is wearing a cup” depending on the stroke she does, I see no reason why it shouldn’t hold up fine.

Keep being awesome!

Megan says

September 9, 2015 at 10:37 pm

Hi! Sorry if this is way too much info but I literally have no idea about this.

I’;m in my early teens, and have been using pads since me period began. I’;ve never had intercourse or masturbated nor used a tampon, but I really hate the feeling of pads. I have to change mine once every hour or half hour for it to not smell or feel disgusting.

Is using a cup going to hurt or be uncomfortable the first few times round? I basically have to cover myself in toilet paper and pads for it not to leak everywhere when I sleep (like I mean I make improvised nappy is how bad it is during sleep), so will I have to wake up and change the cup? Does it properly stay in place? I want to try the cups, but I’;m really nervous about it and I’;m not sure whether I should just wait until I’;m more comfortable with the whole insertion thing.

Thank you, and sorry again if I went into too much detail. :)

Jess Miller says

September 9, 2015 at 11:10 pm

Hi Megan,

No such thing as too much detail, the more detail you provide, the more likely you will get advice that is just right for you :)

The fact that you are improvising a nappy is a sure sign that you need to look for a better solution. While a menstrual cup may be the answer to your problem, I cannot guarantee it due to just how different everyone is.

When folded a menstrual cup is slightly larger than a tampon. If you have not used a tampon before then I imagine that the experience will likely be uncomfortable since nothing has ever been “;up there”; before and it will very likely take more than a few tries before you get the hang of it. But you would likely find the same experience with tampons as well. You could always try out tampons first (since they are cheaper).

This learning is all part of becoming comfortable with your body, and there is no better way to know your body than to explore it and try new things. Unfortunately, finding the right feminine hygiene product for you is somewhat trial and error. Despite all the benefits of menstrual cups, some women still don’;t like them and that is just fine, as it all comes down to personal preference.

Women I have talked to with heavier than usual flows have said that they can get through about 8 hours before they have to change it (just enough time to sleep, but not much of a sleep in). When you lay down at night you will likely notice that you are wearing a cup. This sensation can range from incredibly light, to slight pressure but most people don’;t find it difficult to sleep with a cup in. If the seal has formed correctly it will stay in place throughout the night (but you should wear a pad the first few nights just in case.

If you do proceed down this path there are some things to be mindful of:

Your hymen may break resulting in blood when you first insert the menstrual cup. This is natural and one way or another that thing is going to break anyway. Just don’;t be freaked out when you see blood, the cup has not cut you.

It will be pretty awkward at first and may take hours to find the right position, fold and insertion angle for you. Especially since you are not completely familiar with everything down there. Don’;t worry, this will get easier and after finding what works for you, you will be inserting it like a pro. It’;s like learning to ride a bike. It doesn’;t happen first try but it will happen.

Hope this helps and keep being awesome!

Vera says

September 12, 2015 at 2:52 am

I have been using a Keeper for almost 2 years now. It’;s amazing compared to tampons! However.. I have an incredibly heavy flow and will fill the cup within an hour to an hour and a half for up to 12 hours on day 2 of my cycle, invariably I end up waking 3 or 4 times a night to empty it and have big time leaked through since the cup is past full. I am looking for a better cup for me, for 2 reasons..1. with as much insertion and reinsertion that I do (not only during heavy flows, but paranoia sets in and I am checking it a few times a day when things start to lighten up), my vagina gets a little sore and I was thinking a softer cup might be a better option for me, at least on a lighter day. But which cups are softer?2. Is there a better cup for my type of heavy flow, so I am not leaking so much through the night?

Jess Miller says

September 12, 2015 at 6:11 am

Hi Vera,

The Keeper is actually one of the smaller sized menstrual cups on the market (25ml I believe) and definitely is not suitable for a heavy flow.

The largest I have come across is the Yuuki Cup (48% larger than your current cup. WOW!). Unfortunately other than the size I have very little experience with the product but if it fills slower then perhaps it will put your mind at ease so you are checking less? Food for thought. Most cups start at 30ml like the Lunette or Diva. Ladycup and rubycup are probalby the next largest at 34 ml each.

Kee being awesome!

Anonoymous says

September 13, 2015 at 1:03 am

Been a diva cup user for 6 years now. Wished I had known about these cups ages ago!! Took me 4 months to get over the learning curve but am finally familiar with exactly how to insert. Making sure your cup is OPEN and ROTATING are KEY. I continue to try converting my daughters, but they can’;t get over the “;ick”; factor. I stumbled across this candid, yet thorough explanation while googling why Diva Cup doesn’;t do commercials-lol. just wanted to say “;great article”; and to those trying and feeling like giving up, DONT! You will eventually get it and when you do, you will never buy tampons or pads again!!

Jess Miller says

September 13, 2015 at 11:46 pm

Hi Anonymous,

Thanks for the words of wisdom. I completely agree with you that there is no turning back once you master the learning curve. I am impressed you were able to stick at it for 4 months (I’;ll be honest, I would have given up long before then) but I am glad to hear that you eventually found success. It feels amazingly liberating being able to walk past the feminine hygiene section while shopping without even giving it a glance.

Thanks for the kind words and keep being awesome!

annie says

September 16, 2015 at 2:04 pm

Today is the first time m going to use M-cup but I have a concern –; regular using of M-cup will loosen my vagina?

Jess Miller says

September 16, 2015 at 11:14 pm

Hi Annie,

No, the vagina is a muscle that can stretch to fit all sorts of things and then collapses back on itself when it’;s empty. The menstrual cup has no effect on muscle tone and will not “;make you loose”;

Keep being awesome!

Angie says

September 18, 2015 at 8:14 pm

You obviously know a lot about all this stuff and your site is appreciated. The only comment I didn’;t like was when you said that most women who think they have heavy flow actually don’;t and then you proceeded to give the amount of blood or the range lost on average per cycle. I believe that any woman who thinks she has heavy flow, most likely does indeed have heavy periods. In my experience, when I discuss periods with other women, none of them think they have heavy flow. They don’;t claim to even before I describe how heavy mine are and after I explain to them they say, oh yeah, mine are nothing like that. Most women claim to have normal or light flow. I can’;t wait to be rid of my period for good.

Pri says

September 23, 2015 at 1:39 am

Hi Jess,

That’;s a great article and has everything I would like to know about a M-Cup.I am very excited and interested in buying one and getting used to it asap.I am 28, married and no babies. But will be soon planning for a baby. Just wondering which size i should go for.Also would it be a good idea to buy a cup of a brand called as “;Female Cup”; or any other Non Branded cup from E-bay which acknowledge to be made of Medical Grade Silicon and are FDA approved.I cant find any reviews of “;Female Cup”; so little paranoid if it would be worth giving it a try.


Convert says

September 24, 2015 at 1:58 am

Great article, thanks for putting this together! I started using cups a few months ago, and while I’;m still trying to find the perfect one, it’;s been much better than pads and tampons. I can’;t imagine going back!

In my research to try to find my perfect cup, I found that it appears the FDA is no longer requiring premarket approval (search for FDA 2014-D-0967), so FDA approval may not be a key consideration going forward.

J West says

September 25, 2015 at 12:58 pm

HiThank-you so much for writing this brilliant article! I have 5 children &; my husband has recently had a vasectomy so I have completely ditched the birth control! The downside of not being on the pill has meant my heavy periods have returned with a vengeance &; tampons are simply not doing their job effectively- I’;ve been thinking about trying a cup for a while, and this article has made up my mind &; I’;ve ordered one today- thank you!!Jen

Ashlynn says

September 26, 2015 at 4:12 am

Thank you so so so sooooooo much for this article. I’;ve been wanting to try something other than pads and tampons forever but never knew what things were safe to use. The first time I used a menstral cup, though, I felt a slight burning sensation and when inserting the cup it pressed against something hard and hurt for a second (would that be my cervix?) I’;m aware that I’;m probably just not used to it or inserting it wrong or something, but should I be worried?

Heather says

October 6, 2015 at 7:30 pm

I have been using the Instead disposable cups for nine months now and am ready to switch to non disposable option. I have found the Instead to be very comfortable but they do leak when I go to the bathroom (no big deal of course) and when occasionally when I sneeze or cough (less than ideal). Will a silicone cup protect better against sneeze or cough leaks?I have extremely high flow (used to bleed through a super tapon in an hour on my heavy days), have had two children (natural with epidural and one was back labor), am 36, have a high cervix, but actually have a very narrow canal (super tampons were a challenge to get up there sometimes as are “;other”; things). Would the Diva 2 cup be too wide for those needs? Is there a cup that has a very high capacity but works on a narrow vagina that has gone through natural child birth (in other words narrow but with muscles that sometimes relax on a sneeze or cough)? Unlike shoes, I doubt I can try them on and return them so I appreciate any insight!!!

Jess says

October 11, 2015 at 6:01 pm

I’;m wearing my first menstrual cup right now! Based on the insertion process, I think my cervix sits quite low during menstruation. If part of my cervix seems to be IN the cup, does that mean I need a shorter cup? Or is that typical?

Thank you!

Rachel says

October 12, 2015 at 9:47 am

Hi. I don’;t know if you are still responding to questions since the last question is over a year old, but I figured I’;d give it a shot.

I’;m 34. Been pregnant, but have never had the privilege of actually having any children. I tried tamping as a teen, but because they said “;if it is in right you won’;t feel it”;, and I could ALWAYS feel it I gave up on them. Well, about 3-4 years ago I figured out that they worked even though I could feel them, and that some women do feel them. I’;m still not fond of using them, and only do when I HAVE to because they are really uncomfortable to remove because of the whole dry thing (even if the tampon is full it still makes me feel dry). I know I have a tilted uterus as well, and my OBGYN said that may contribute to me being able to feel the tampons (because it’;s not always just the uterus that is not “;normally”; positioned). For at least one day of my period I also have to sleep on towels, in old pants and clothing, and sort of create my own, almost diaper, with like 4 pads, with my hips raised just to keep from a HUGE mess, and during that day or so can literally soak through an overnight (10 hours) pad in an hour, and do this for 12-24 hours depending on the month.

So, here are my questions:1) With having the dryness and stuff with tampons can a cup produce the same symptoms?

2) Will the tilted uterus cause positioning issues, or prevent it from forming the seal (I realize I’;ll likely feel it, but as with the tampons if it works I’;m okay with that as the tampons never hurt, I just felt them)?

3) You think it will be worth trying to use during that really heavy day?

Thank you in advance for any help or advice offered.

Lel says

October 15, 2015 at 1:51 pm

Thank you for the informative guide. I have a few friends who use menstrual cups and have been considering trying one for about half a year but just hadn’;t picked 1 up. When I realized my cycle was due close to the day I will be flying out for vacation I finally hunted down where to get one in Singapore. (Not easy to find.) I picked up my Mooncup brand cup early this evening. I found your article on the way home and it has been very helpful. Thank you.My question regards the regular rinsing. Singapore water is very safe and clean but I regularly travel to other sections of Southeast Asia. I also enjoy camping. Does rinse water need to be clean (as in potable/drinkable)? Is there any information on the affects of poor water quality on menstrual cup use? I couldn’;t find anything anywhere.

Mel says

October 28, 2015 at 1:56 pm

After giving birth to my ds just over a year ago my period has finally returned. I’;m now thinking about giving a menstrual cup a try. I believe I’;ve always had a fairly low cervix, but since giving birth it seems even lower, causing me to have to get a bit creative when inserting a tampon. I basically only insert it to my first knuckle and kind of tilt it so it sits on a bit of an angle from front to back. Otherwise I just leak straight past it. My period is also fairly light so I think I’;ll be able to handle something that’;s fairly shallow. Could you recommend which brands of cup are best for a low cervix? Thanks for writing such a great piece and inspiring me on this journey.

Jordan says

October 30, 2015 at 1:16 am

Hey, I know I’;m a little late, but I was wondering if using a cup is a good idea when you’;re at a young age. I’;m 16 years old and have never been sexually active, I have a very high cervix and I’;m a little confused about removal, since (TMI) I can only get one finger in…; Anyway, is it possible for me to use one? and if so what brand do you recommend?

Ashraf says

November 2, 2015 at 4:18 am

HiI have one doubt.. I’;m using cup for a first time.. While sitting or other time it works perfectly but at night it’;s leaking…; Pls help…; Then does cup collected blood again travel to uterus while we sleep…;???? Is tat safe for us…;? While inserting cup it hurts little. But inside I feel pop sometime. Sometime not..pls clear my three doubts

Amy says

November 6, 2015 at 12:51 am

Hello! I loved your article:)! I purchased the diva cup last year and I used it for about 6 months, but I always had issues with it. I’;m 16, so I got the smaller model. When I inserted the cup I made sure it was open and I did the 360 rotation, but on the second day of my period (in which my flow is really heavy, the other days it’;s normal or really light), or at night time, it always seemed to leak, and I don’;t understand why. (The leaks when I woke up where HORRIBLE even with a backup pad). If the cup is inserted correctly and it still leaks is it because the cup is too small for your body/flow or because it’;s too big for your body? I got frustrated so I went back to using tampons but I really want to try again since I really loved the cup even though I was having issues with it. So, do you think I should try a bigger or a smaller cup? Or am I inserting it wrong even though all the signs of ‘;proper insertion’; are there? Sorry for the super long question and thank you so much for writing this!

Violet says

November 8, 2015 at 6:03 pm

A really great and informative article Jess, thank you for this.

I’;ve never used a cup before, and only once used tampons (this was due to issues I was having at the time, which have now been medically corrected). Therefore I do recognise it might be a little harder transition for me than for those going tampons >; cup, but I’;m willing to take maybe six months to see if they’;re for me.

My main question really is, I seem to have a really very low cervix during my period. Sometimes it feels like I’;m barely getting my finger nail in there before I’;m feeling it. Is this simply not enough room to use cups like this? And when you wear them is the cervix meant to be above them, or partially inside if the cervix is low?

Given all this, do you think I’;m going to have problems being able to use them with the low cervix, and do you recommended any brands/shapes to start with for this shape?

Theresa says

November 18, 2015 at 2:26 pm

Thank you for writing this article, I’;ve been considering trying an M-cup and after reading I’;m ordering. I just have a question that I didn’;t see here. I have a heavy flow for 1-2 days and so when I’;m washing out my cup I’;m afraid of a murder scene on my floor. Would have 2 be better so a clean one can be inserted while the other is being cleaned? Does anyone have this problem? Thank you, Terry

Ari says

November 28, 2015 at 3:50 pm

Because of the slight suction are menstrual cups safe to use with an IUD? That is my only concern, is that wearing a cup could cause expulsion of my IUD.

Stephanie says

December 6, 2015 at 7:25 pm

Hi Jess,

In your wonderful article here, you show a number of times a photo of a purple menstrual cup that has a little hoop on the bottom, for the part you pull out. It looks like a little bell. Nowhere do I see any information on that one. Can you tell me what brand that one is? That design really appeals to me! I would love to know more about it.

Thanks for writing this guide, I love it!Stephanie

Jacinta Williams says

December 11, 2015 at 3:35 am

Hey there! Just wanted to say that this site is extremely helpful! I’;m gonna go buy me a menstrual cup ASAP after this!

Also…; I am 14 years old, not sexually active, and haven’;t given birth. However, after consulting my family doctor, I have concluded that I do indeed have a quite heavy period. Am I still able to use the larger sizes of menstrual cup even though I am not over 30/given birth?

Thanks so much for all your help!

Linda says

December 30, 2015 at 4:14 am

Hi! I’;m going to be receiving a Divacup and Lunette cup soon, and I was wondering if it was safe to use Milton Sterilizing tablets at the end of my cycle, and a feminine wash in between uses. I’;ve heard from some people that it’;s safe, but I don’;t want to damage the silicone since it is quite pricey. Thanks!

Audrey says

January 5, 2016 at 1:38 am

Hi!This article is great and really explained things well and called my nerves about getting one! I just have one more question. While you’;re cleaning the cup, do you basically just go around with no protection? Like while I’;m going to the sink to wash it, do I risk bleeding on me during this time? I’;m in college and live in a dorm, so basically every time I would be cleaning the cup I would be in a community bathroom. This is the only thing stopping me from buying one.

T says

January 8, 2016 at 3:39 am

I have a very athletic 11.5 yo who just had her first period. Any suggestions on which brands to try?

Laura says

January 14, 2016 at 5:24 am

I loved this article! So full of great info! I have never used a menstural cup before, but i’;m definately on board! I’;m still doing some research &; I have a couple of curious questions (maybe silly)…;.what about the blood from the cup, can it go back up into the vagina?Second, i’;m 27 &; have 2 kids I was thinking of a large size, but im guessing I should probably go with a small…;your thoughts?Lastly, has anyone reported that they could feel the blood leaking out of the vagina, for example when standing or running? That feeling has never been a comfortable one for me…;as the tampons will “;catch”; before you get to that oozing feeling. Blah.

Kimberly says

January 28, 2016 at 1:25 am

Hey I have a question I just started using the ruby cup small but I feel like it’;s open cus I pull the cup out and push it back in idk but when I pee and wipe I see blood and I wear a liner and it sometimes has a bit of blood but when I take it out its only half full idk what I’;m doing wrong or if it’;s the cup?

Kimberly says

January 28, 2016 at 1:28 am

Also I haven’;t felt a pop am I supposed to?

savannah says

January 28, 2016 at 6:07 pm

I’;m really trying to like menstrual cups, but I’;m getting HORRIBLE cramps with them :( I’;ve used a lunette cup and a diva cup, both the smaller size. I have no problem putting them in, getting them out, and no problems with leakage. The only thing keeping me from loving them is the horrible cramps that they always give me. As soon as I take it out, I’;m perfectly fine, but then I need to use a tampon :( I’;ve heard that it could be suction in and pulling down my cervix, which sounds horrible to me lol. What should I do?

andi says

January 29, 2016 at 12:52 am

So I just started using a lily cup A yesterday and im not sure if its that I don’;t know how to insert it properly or the cup is too big, but i feel a lot of discomfort and the steem base hurts my pelvic bone and skin in there, should it be more in? also i never get cramps and i really feel the cup preasuring my lower abdomen!


Kaitlyn says

February 2, 2016 at 10:11 pm

Hi! I’;m a 14 year old (virgin) teenager who wears tampons. Recently I found out about menstrual cups. My first response was, ewww. I researched about them, though, out of curiosity. I am sooo glad I did! They seem muchhhhh better than pads and tampons! Anyways, as I said I’;m a teen, on the volleyball team at school and I love to swim. I was looking at the Sibell menstrual cup. I liked it because it says that it’;s reallyyyy soft and flexible. But I’;m worried that it will be too soft and cave in at a volleyball practice/game or when I’;m swimming. Yikes! So then I started looking at the lunette size 1, which is also supposed to be soft, but firm. I’;m just worried it will be too firm and be uncomfortable. I also want to get one that I can wear to bed (I HATE wearing pads to bed, they are DISGUSTING). Do you have any preferences or know of cups that would be better? I am also nervous about them getting “;lost”; or “;stuck”; up there. What if I can’;t get it out? Does it happen often? Is it normal for it to go up so far? Please help, I really want to get one!!!

Sne says

February 4, 2016 at 6:00 pm

Hi! Fantastic article.

I’;ve been happily using tampons for years but when I heard about menstrual cups from a friend I went straight online and bought the same one as her without even realizing the variety out there.

I’;ve got a LadyCup size Small.I’;m 29 and have never had sex (or a baby –; no miraculous virgin births here!).I’;m reasonably physically active, but nothing that particularly strengthens the pelvic floor muscles (mostly I run).I have extremely light flow. I buy the smallest Tampax (which are hard to find!) and for most of my period only need one a day.

My cup works well: I can’;t feel it once it’;s in and it doesn’;t leak. BUT it’;s like my vagina swallows it up! In the diagrams in the instructions it looks like the cup is supposed to sit fairly far down near the vaginal opening, but mine rides up so far that I can’;t even reach the stem. What’;s going on? Since it’;s not leaking the size must be fine, but last time I had it in it took me 3 hours to get it out (and yes, I used kegels to push it downwards but it was STILL out of reach!).

When I do manage to grab the stem it’;s so slippery that I can’;t pull it out anyway (again, I must have a good seal!). I have to try to dry it off with toilet paper first! It’;s a nightmare!

Right now I don’;t dare use it again. And unfortunately, after a few experiences of it riding up I cut the stem to half length thinking it must be the stem that was pushing it up. BIG mistake (it was this that resulted in the 3-hour epic…;).

Do you have any advice? I’;m determined to make this menstrual cup thing work for me. I wondered if I should be using a larger size, but I’;m not sure how it’;d fit! Where should the cup actually sit?

Julie says

February 24, 2016 at 9:13 am

I just got my first cup and I was really excited about it. I ended up getting the Diva Cup because it’;s the only one I could get in store. However when I tried to use it, it protrudes out of me while I use the bathroom. Is that normal? Is this a problem? It definately feels awkward. I know I had a good seal since I heard a pop when taking it out later. I’;m a little bummed that I might need a smaller brand because I’;m not sure what would be a better fit and I spent the money on this one if that is the case. Help!

Mari says

February 27, 2016 at 8:41 am

Hi JessThis is a very good guide. Thank you!

I’;m relatively new to cups having just finished my second period using it. I got a moon cup (I’;m in UK) the bigger one as I’;m over 30 with 2 kids. I have quite heavy periods that go like this : 1st day –; light flow, 2nd day –; bleed to death, 3rd day –; very light flow.

As expected, day 1 and 3 go fine, but on day 2 my cup needs emptying every 3 hrs or so and I also leak massively. Every time I empty, the cup is full. I also feel like little bubbles coming out of me, which is something that I have not found any reference to in any of the info guides on line.

I know the cup is well fitted and as this happens only on my heavy day I wondered if I should try a cup with more capacity and which would you say will hold more? And what on earth is the deal with the bubbles????!!!

Any thoughts? I love using a cup (my super plus Tampax lasted me 1.5 hours so it’;s an improvement!!) but I wish it gave me better protection on day 2!

Thanks xx

Freya says

March 2, 2016 at 7:33 pm

Hey I knew about period cups for a month now and I’;ve always wanted one cause I knew that I could save money and help save the environment but I don’;t like tampons I feel like I could never put them in right and they where always uncomfortable…;would the menstrual cup be a good choice for me?

A?né says

March 3, 2016 at 4:20 am

Sooo much information. I love it!I’;m looking into using one of these, got lots of information. I am 21, not a virgin, do know my anatomy BUT I am at a loss still about measuring my cervix. I just…; don’;t get it. I am totally fine with all details, miniscule and gross if need be.If it helps, I once had a boyfriend who was a bit in the small side in length (five inches, sorry Paul, not) but with my knees against my chest it could get painful, as if he were going too deep. Does this mean I’;m short?The whole knuckle length and feel ‘;this’; and ‘;that’; confuses me greatly. (I’;m not too bright and unfortunately find it easier with lots of detail). Any help would be very much appreciated.

Joanna says

March 3, 2016 at 7:30 am

I’;m 14 and um I was wondering if menstrual cups would be the right thing for me? Are they a lot harder to insert than tampons? I remembet reading articles about how inserting a tampon the first time might be hard but I got it on my first try, so I’;m wondering if people are just exaggerating when they say it’;s kind of hard to insert a cup? Also I obviously haven’;t given birth at 14 and still a virgin so I’;m assuming I would have to go for a smaller sized cup, but I have a pretty heavy flow so would this affect the size choice?

Ashley says

March 4, 2016 at 12:26 pm

Hi Jess,

I’;m currently experiencing problem with my cup, it’;s 2.5 ”; to 2 ”; (length and across), very soft, holds about 28ml, and it doesn’;t pop open, I can’;t rotate it, it feels like it’;s squished into the shape of my vagina, bit like flattening it with your fingers. I change my cup every 2.5 hours on my heaviest day, and so I think in terms of volume this cup is perfect. It leaks enough for me to wear a pantyliner. Should I get a smaller but firmer cup for this problem? I’;m hesitant because if I get I smaller cup I don’;t want to be changing my cup every hour.

Thank you for your help!

Courtney says

March 4, 2016 at 7:04 pm


Thanks so much for this guide! I have toyed with the idea of switching to a menstrual cup for months, but the numerous options would always overwhelm me and I’;d throw up my hands in despair. (Haha) I noticed, though, that you didn’;t mention size nor firmness when describing the Soft Cup. I’;m interested in how it differs in those respects from reusable silicone cups. I bought a pack at the beginning of my last cycle because it was affordable and I wanted an idea of how they work. The firmness of the rim made insertion difficult, but once in it didn’;t cause a discomfort problem. That being said, it didn’;t stay in the way it was supposed to. Maybe it was user error, but even when I pushed it in as far as it would seemingly go and set it behind my pubic bone, it would always pop out (and therefore, spill out). I’;m inclined to buy the small size Lunette, but think I may be overestimating how low my cervix is. Knowing how the size and firmness of the soft cup is in comparison to other cups would be super helpful!

Hailey says

March 11, 2016 at 2:07 am

I just read the whole article and I find it great. I’;m really interested in trying the menstrual cup as tampons have become increasingly more painful to use. The only issue I face is, I have what you’;ve referred to as a low cervix. I can feel it almost as soon as I insert a finger to try to find it. It’;s barely an inch before I can feel it. I’;m worried I’;m going to buy the wrong size cup as all of them are 2″; or so long and I don’;t have much room to work with in there. Do you have any advice as to what I can do? Any advice would be taken to heart and greatly appreciated. Thank you!! :)

Ashley says

March 29, 2016 at 5:16 am

I have read over this all night and I’;m not sure if anything like this has been asked yet of not so I apologize I advance but I’;ve been reading for hours so I’;ll just ask…;. I tried the softcup reusable disposable ones and wowsers at the size of that thing ! I was freaking out but anyways…;. I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis in which my colon stays inflamed and enlarged a majority of the time, which apparently is very close to the vaginal wall or whatnot. I noticed that sometimes I could definitely feel it inside me and it was slightly to sometimes even very uncomfortable but if this can be explained well …;it felt like it was just making my colon area hurt worse. I usually have some pain on my lower left side right inside from my hip bone and it felt like it just made that worse. What my question would be is if you’;ve had any experience using these verses the ones you’;ve mentioned you’;ve used. The ring in the top of the softcup was (in my opinion) quite hard/firm so I’;d really like to know the firmness difference between the softcup and these others, the diva and lunnete because I don’;t have a ton of money to try them out (and who’;s honestly gonna return a menstraul cup, if that’;s even possible which I doubt it is Bc that’;s gross) Thanks in advance.

Anna says

March 30, 2016 at 1:04 pm

I think you should really mention a warning for people who have tighter vaginas that a larger menstrual cup like the Diva Cup and the Lunette are potentially dangerous because they can stuck up in the cervix and can be hard or impossible to remove without a doctor. This happened to me and had I known that those specific cups could cause that I wouldn’;t have purchased them. I’;m going to try the Lily Cup and hopefully it will work better.

Thank you! says

April 3, 2016 at 11:42 pm

This is hella helpful –; thank you!!! I’;m super excited to get a menstrual cup and this helps me feel much more confident about choosing one and ordering it, and getting ready to learn :) I love how you stuck to anatomy and don’;t have a lot of assumptions about people. One thing I want to point out: I don’;t have penetrative sex or plan to and wanted to offer a couple tweaks that can make all this info that much more welcoming to everyone who has periods. 1) Change “;If you are a younger girl who is yet to have intercourse then you may find inserting a menstrual cup difficult”; to something like “;If you have not had penetrative sex then you may find inserting a menstrual cup difficult”; 2) Be awesome and add a sentence up at the top stating this is for people of all genders who have periods! Woot! Thank you again for collecting all this important info –; I’;m amazed and sad that I didn’;t know about it before –; and for moderating all the comments :)

Brandy says

April 4, 2016 at 4:51 pm

Hi I have some questions…;. How does the cup allow all of the blood to come out, and not spill back into you while sitting or laying down? Also, does the cup allow your vagina to be cleaner and smell better than using pads or tampons?

Mallow999 says

May 13, 2016 at 9:47 pm

I have just started using a menstrual cup (MeLuna) last night. I keeled it in all night and when I woke I went to the toilet to urinate. But when I wiped my vagina after there was blood coming out. I pulled out my cup and it wasn’;t even close to being full. The seal was still tight. It that normal

Sophia says

May 25, 2016 at 2:11 pm

Hello!Although the article is not too new, but I still hope I’;ll get an answer for my question.

I think I’;m starting to figure out my leakage problems, so I got that covered. (In the mornings I have to rush to empty my cup on the heavier days, I figured my cervix dumps into it a bit while I stretch and it makes the blood spill.) Correct me if I think wrong.

But my other problem is, that when I remove the cup to empty it, obviously my vagina will get a bit bloody, now if I insert the cup back without having a shower and washing my vagina, then I’;ll get a brownish leak after a few hours (suppose from my vagina, what was left there while emptying the cup.) So my question is, how do I keep this from happening? It’;s obviously not healthy to clean my vagine out for ex. with a baby wipe, because I mess up my pH, etc…; So what should I do? It’;s annoying because otherwise, the cup would hold just fine.

Thank you!

Brooke says

May 26, 2016 at 6:00 am

Ok, so I am new to the menstrual cup and have to admit I was highly skeptical when I first heard about it, but after my sister raved about it I decided to give it a try. This is my 2 cycle and have had quite a struggle getting the cup inserted and correctly in place. I am over 30 but have never had babies and have a a small vagina and tilted cervix so I decided to try a soft cup and what I thought would be a smaller cup, the lily compact small. I finally got the cup inserted successfully tonight for the first time and wore it in bed for hour and half (lube was the key for me) however, immediately started feeling a burning sensation which I assumed was just the stretching of my vagina around this foreign object, but after an hour and half the burning and pressure became too much and I started getting extremely nauseous. I removed the cup and the burning has stopped and nausea has eased. I was very careful not to use anything I hadn’;t used before as I tend to be highly allergic to everything and am prone to contact dermatitis from just about anything that touches my skin and have dermatographia. I have worn tampons for decades now and tend to get a little irritation from them but oddly enough nothing too unbarable so I find the reaction to the cup very strange. I am not sure if it is an allergic reaction to the material or perhaps just a physical reaction from the wrong size of the cup and the pressure it put on my cervix? I don’;t want to give up on the cup just yet and am thinking of trying a smaller cup (perhaps the femmeycup for low cervix) but don’;t want to waste a lot of money only to find out my body will just not tolerate it. Has anyone had a similar experience with burning, pressure and nausea? If so, did it improve when the size or material of the cup was changed? I know I have a mild allergic reaction to latex, I.e. I am a nurse and wear latex gloves, however, it does tend to cause some mild redness and irritation. I am assuming a long time exposure to a latex based cup may not work either since my body doesn’;t seem to want to get along with silicone. I feel like I am rambling but I want to give as much information as possible because I desperately wanted this cup thing to work for me. FYI I have only boiled and used water to clean my cup, so it isn’;t a reaction to a cleaner or chemical solvent. Anyone have a similar experience and/or any ideas or suggestions?

caitlyn says

June 3, 2016 at 4:12 pm

After doing research on menstrual cups I am definitely intrigued, however I am quite scared to choose one since I am such a petite person (5’;1 and 95 lbs) I want to pick the best cup for me so that there is no risk of it getting stuck inside me (a huge fear)! any advice on this would be appreciated!

Corra says

June 16, 2016 at 2:43 am


Thanks for providing so much detail!

Years ago I looked into using a Soft Cup. I don’;t remember which one but I do know they mailed me a free sample after I requested one online. I remember reading that it cannot be used with an IUD so I never did try it. I started looking into menstrual cups again and have found several people think it may require a little extra work and attention (like being aware of and checking the IUD strings after positioning the cup) but it would work fine and not interfere. It seems that those are only opinions of menstrual cup users but not women who use an IUD as birth control. Do you have any personal experience with this? I would hate to accidentally dislodge my IUD!


Krista says

June 27, 2016 at 4:15 am

The last two months I’;ve had irritation that leads to itching the last 2 or 3 days of my period using the diva cup. My vulva and right inside of the vagina feel uncomfortable during removal and soon after the itching and burning begin. I’;ve used it for about a year now and have not had this problem before. It’;s only the last few days and then goes away within a day or two after I stop using the cup. My period is about 7 days long. I typically only rinse my cup during changes and then boil it before I put it away in its bag. Any ideas what could be causing this? Is it just irritating the vulva area and this leads to itching?

Emilie says

July 15, 2016 at 3:25 am

Hi !Thanks for the article

I would love to wear cups and tried my size 2 diva cup. The problem is I always feel the stem, even if I cut it and it’;s not comfy. It feels like it’;s falling !I had 2 kids and needed pelvic reeducation (is that right? I’;m French speaking ). I also have reverse cervix orientation( ?)Do you have any clues ?Thanks

Ashley says

July 30, 2016 at 9:57 pm

I tried the Diva Cup long ago and while I was able to get it in, I think correctly, I couldn’;t get it out and almost had to go to the doctor. I’;m small and have never had children so I’;m sure I would take a small size. However I also have an IUD and I can’;t feel the strings for it because I’;m not dexterous and a doctor once told me that my cervix is like tilted, which is why it’;s so difficult for me to reach the IUD strings. The cups that have suction holes, ribbing, and a stem seem like the best option for me since it can help with removal. I was thinking the soft cups or the lunette would be good to try. I’;m wondering if the cup is smaller, will that make removal more difficult because it will be up higher inside you? Any advice is greatly appreciated here! I have always wanted to be able to use this method, particularly because my periods are longer but spotty. I’;m super active so it can be really unpleasant wearing cloth pads for over half a week since the flow is not heavy enough to warrant a tampon.

Meggy says

September 8, 2016 at 2:51 am

Hi! Great informative and comprehensive article. I have a question that I have been scouring the Internet for. I recently bought a diva cup (size one) which I thought would be fine to use on my virginal but very use to tampon vagina (I’;ve been using them since I started my period at 10 and am currently 18) I can get the cup in when using a specific fold but it is straight up PAINFUL to get the thing out, especially when trying not to spill the contents of the cup. I’;m pretty sure my hymen is still intact so could that be the reason? Or sould i be using a smaller cup? Thanks for any help or insight you can give.

Kirsty says

September 9, 2016 at 5:26 am

HI. Thanks for your information! I’;ve read that you can leave your cup in when you pee etc but I find that when I do my muscles push the cup down until it is sticking out! This means having to remove and put back in every time I use the loo.Would having a firmer cup produce a stronger suction and stop this happening?I’;m currently using fleur L which only just in fits with stem cut off. Cervix takes up some of the capacity. (40 , 3 kids, low cervix, heavy flow (empty every 2 hours!), av-good fitness level)

Kaitlyn says

October 19, 2016 at 8:12 am

I am still 12 year old and i want to use a menstrual cup. And i have little low vervix, so i m thinking to buy lily cup compact. Will that fit me? Or should i use other cup?

Isabelle Powell says

November 23, 2016 at 9:26 am

Hey Jess! Great article! I have had my diva cup for about a year, after a few cycles of getting used to it it was wonderful! But then it suddenly stopped working! :( any thoughts on why?? I can’;t even use it anymore because it leaks too much!

Nisha says

January 10, 2017 at 1:03 am

I m really upset with my periods and pain and heavy bleeding i m using menstrul cup i need to empty it every 2,3 hrs even if i go aftr 1 hour its almost full every time it leaks as well which one ll be best for me.

Laura says

February 25, 2017 at 1:46 am

I’;m not an expert, but maybe you need a larger size and/or a cup with more capacity.

Sandy says

March 19, 2017 at 6:42 am

Thank you for your very informative blog.I bleed way too much, I have the 2 different Divas but seems like neither will stop me from empty it every 2 hours. I insert them right because when it’;s time to empty it, it’;s full all the way up. I decided to try the cups because pads will definitely stop me from stepping out the those days. I love the feeling of not being always wet but It will be perfect to stay away from the restroom that often.

Felicia says

May 2, 2017 at 8:05 am

Hello,I have both the lunette and the Lilycup compact. I found the lunette to be too much pressure for me in the beginning. That being said I have passed the learning curve for the LCC and successfully used it as my only source of menstrual protection while traveling for three months. Upon my return home I couldn’;t get it stay put while inside to save my life. It keeps rising up. I then tried the Lunette and it also rose up. Which never happened before my travels. My periods have been a bit different and I chalk it up to stress. The stress has all but subsided but I still can’;t get either of them to stay in place. Do you have any insight or advice? Thanks in advance!Ps: I will be making a trip to my Gyno.

Denise C says

May 14, 2018 at 10:47 am

I’;ve always thought about trying out a menstrual cup. After reading this article , I definitely have more insight about them. I felt more confident and decided to try the Lunette cup. I have been very happy with it.

Jess Miller says

May 15, 2018 at 1:59 pm

Thanks for your feedback, Denise! I’;m glad you enjoyed the article and you’;re happy with the Lunette Cup.

Grace says

May 17, 2018 at 9:54 am

Thanks for all the great information in the article. I tried the Diva cup and I absolutely love it. I feel so much cleaner now and haven’;t had any leaks. I’;m definitely never going back to wearing tampons.

Jess Miller says

May 18, 2018 at 11:11 am

Thanks for sharing with us, grace! I’;m happy to hear you tried the Diva Cup and like it.

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